During the coronavirus crisis, I will be offering telemental health to new and existing clients.
“Telemental health” simply means we can talk via video during appointments. It’s like FaceTime but with technology that protects your privacy.
Contact me today to see if this new service might be right for you.
Remember when close wasn’t close enough? Remember the early years of dating and marriage when you held hands in the car and sat on the same side of the restaurant booth? Now, do you find your spouse on the other side of the couch or, worse, on a different floor of your home? What happened to that connection?
For couples, the marriage relationship is the defining relationship of adult life. The sense that “something’s off” with your spouse affects you to the core. Without the assurance that your partner is with you, you feel unsafe and deeply lonely.
You may wish to recapture the thrill of the early days, but I think there’s something better: the deep intimacy that comes from weathering the years together, from building back and repairing the broken pieces.
Healing and strengthened connection are possible—if you’re ready to identify your current pattern and learn a new way of being together.
But not every couple is ready for counseling. Often, one spouse is reluctant, ambivalent, or hesitant. It can feel hopeless to be stuck in a marriage where you feel unsupported or rejected; these negative feelings only grow stronger when your spouse doesn’t want to put in the work to change. Maybe you’ve brought up the idea of marriage therapy but have been rebuffed. Maybe your partner’s actions seem so negative that you can’t image facing the distance together—yet.
You can still change your half of the cycle. You can learn to identify and better articulate your needs to your spouse. Therapy is also a safe space to more fully understand the effects of your family of origin and past relationships. Each person brings his or her previous experiences into the marriage as your attachment wounds shape your go-to responses and emotions.
I enjoy walking with both individuals and couples as they struggle through the hard parts of family life. Life is not a fairy tale, and it’s especially easy to get bogged down in the middle, but things can be different if you dare to pause, explore, and hope. I offer counseling in Woodstock to help you feel better.
Couples who’ve grown apart are often in a pattern of criticism, defensiveness, attack, or maybe even silence. Calm, kind communication seems impossible. Counseling can erase the battle lines and restore the sense of closeness and harmony that seems like a distant memory.
Do you sometimes doubt whether your parenting approach is effective long-term? Are you overly harsh one day and too permissive the next? Children need consistency and secure connection to feel safe and seen. I offer classes and individual counseling sessions to explore a new way of parenting that is kind and firm, warm and empathic.
Discovering infidelity or feeling locked in a constant cycle of betrayal can make spouses wonder if there’s a way forward. Marriage therapy can help you decipher the next best step. I will guide you through the process of determining whether both partners can lean back into the marriage and repair what was ruptured.
Have you lost your mate in the busyness of parenting? Do you feel torn between your role as a parent and a partner? It’s important to prioritize one another during the child-rearing season of
life. Couples counseling can be a great way to find each other again.
Are you a couple in crisis, an individual who feels stuck, or a parent who feels overwhelmed? Do you feel hopeless, with your vision of marriage and family shattered? New Story Counseling can help. I offer individual counseling, marriage therapy, and parenting guidance. I’m located in the Towne Lake area of Woodstock and am currently accepting new clients and offering parenting groups.
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